سطعطع
21-09-2012, 03:40 PM
مساكم الله بالخير
اولا احب ان اشيد بالمنتدى الاكثر من رائع واللي يتربع على عرش المنتديات الانجليزية
المهم
الطلب هالمره مش لي وانما لاخوي طالب الماستر بام القرى وطالبني اترجم له المقاله هذي عن تعديل سلوك الاطفال العدواني
وبحكم ان ثقافتي عربية بحته فلجأت لله اولا ثم لاخواني اعضاء المنتدى الرائع عشان تساعدوني في ترجمة النص
الله يجزاكم كل خي احتاجه قبل يوم الثلاثاء الجاي ومن يساعدني له دعوه بظهر الغيب
النص باللغة الانجليزيه واحتاجه يترجم بالعربي::
"How to Manage Aggressive Child Behavior
by Janet Lehman, MSW New Jersey USA
I’ve talked with a lot of parents who feel out of control in the face of their child’s anger and aggression. In fact, I can’t tell you how many moms and dads have said, “I feel like I’m failing at parenting." In my opinion, it’s not so important why you as a parent aren’t effective at times—what’s more important is what you do about it. The very first step is to be aware of the patterns that have been created over the years with your child. Ask yourself, “What's the behavior I’m seeing, and what am I doing in reaction to it?”
Understand that patterns are particular to each person, situation and child. For example, some parents have trouble dealing with anger themselves. They jump right in, as soon as they hear or see a problem, and get in the kid’s face. This only escalates the situation because if you respond aggressively, it teaches your child that aggression is how you solve problems. As a result, the child may not learn to behave any differently: he’ll also lose his temper and be aggressive.
If you’re a parent who’s caught in an ineffective pattern of responding to your child, realize that change doesn’t happen overnight—it takes time. How you respond doesn’t classify you as a “good” or “bad” parent—but it might mean that you’re part of the problem, and thus can be part of the solution. If your child is aggressive and acting out, it’s not your fault, but you do need to teach him how to do things differently.
The way you handle aggression with your child may change from age to age, stage to stage. Here are some tips to help you at various stages of your child's life.
Pre-school Age Kids and Aggression
1. Be Consistent
2. Remove your child from the situation:
3. Offer a pep talk ahead of time
5. Give time outs
6. Coordinate with other caregivers:
Elementary School Age Children
If you have a child in elementary school and aggressive behavior is happening on a regular basis, you need to have regular communication, probably daily, with the school to monitor this behavior. Find out what the consequences are at school—and make sure that there are consequences for misbehavior at school. You may want to encourage your child's teacher to be consistent with the behavioral expectations and the consequences for aggressive behavior.
Aggressive Teens
There is no excuse for abuse, physical or otherwise. That rule should be written on an index card with a black magic marker and posted on your refrigerator. The message to your child is, “If you’re abusive, there’s no excuse. I don’t want to hear what the reason was. There’s no justification for it. There’s nobody you can blame. You are responsible and accountable for your abusive behavior. And by ‘responsible,’ I mean it’s nobody else’s fault, and by ‘accountable’ I mean there will be consequences.”
اولا احب ان اشيد بالمنتدى الاكثر من رائع واللي يتربع على عرش المنتديات الانجليزية
المهم
الطلب هالمره مش لي وانما لاخوي طالب الماستر بام القرى وطالبني اترجم له المقاله هذي عن تعديل سلوك الاطفال العدواني
وبحكم ان ثقافتي عربية بحته فلجأت لله اولا ثم لاخواني اعضاء المنتدى الرائع عشان تساعدوني في ترجمة النص
الله يجزاكم كل خي احتاجه قبل يوم الثلاثاء الجاي ومن يساعدني له دعوه بظهر الغيب
النص باللغة الانجليزيه واحتاجه يترجم بالعربي::
"How to Manage Aggressive Child Behavior
by Janet Lehman, MSW New Jersey USA
I’ve talked with a lot of parents who feel out of control in the face of their child’s anger and aggression. In fact, I can’t tell you how many moms and dads have said, “I feel like I’m failing at parenting." In my opinion, it’s not so important why you as a parent aren’t effective at times—what’s more important is what you do about it. The very first step is to be aware of the patterns that have been created over the years with your child. Ask yourself, “What's the behavior I’m seeing, and what am I doing in reaction to it?”
Understand that patterns are particular to each person, situation and child. For example, some parents have trouble dealing with anger themselves. They jump right in, as soon as they hear or see a problem, and get in the kid’s face. This only escalates the situation because if you respond aggressively, it teaches your child that aggression is how you solve problems. As a result, the child may not learn to behave any differently: he’ll also lose his temper and be aggressive.
If you’re a parent who’s caught in an ineffective pattern of responding to your child, realize that change doesn’t happen overnight—it takes time. How you respond doesn’t classify you as a “good” or “bad” parent—but it might mean that you’re part of the problem, and thus can be part of the solution. If your child is aggressive and acting out, it’s not your fault, but you do need to teach him how to do things differently.
The way you handle aggression with your child may change from age to age, stage to stage. Here are some tips to help you at various stages of your child's life.
Pre-school Age Kids and Aggression
1. Be Consistent
2. Remove your child from the situation:
3. Offer a pep talk ahead of time
5. Give time outs
6. Coordinate with other caregivers:
Elementary School Age Children
If you have a child in elementary school and aggressive behavior is happening on a regular basis, you need to have regular communication, probably daily, with the school to monitor this behavior. Find out what the consequences are at school—and make sure that there are consequences for misbehavior at school. You may want to encourage your child's teacher to be consistent with the behavioral expectations and the consequences for aggressive behavior.
Aggressive Teens
There is no excuse for abuse, physical or otherwise. That rule should be written on an index card with a black magic marker and posted on your refrigerator. The message to your child is, “If you’re abusive, there’s no excuse. I don’t want to hear what the reason was. There’s no justification for it. There’s nobody you can blame. You are responsible and accountable for your abusive behavior. And by ‘responsible,’ I mean it’s nobody else’s fault, and by ‘accountable’ I mean there will be consequences.”