J.J
18-07-2007, 01:20 AM
How to Kill your mother-in-law
This is an ancient Chinese story. When a girl in ancient China was married, she usually lived with and served her husband and mother-in-law. When Mrs. XXX married her husband, she found that she could not stand the daily criticism of her mother-in-law. She decided to do something. She came to a herbal shop and talked with the owner of the store, who also happened to be a friend of her father.
She said: "Mr. YYY, I cannot stand any more of my mother-in-law's temper. She has driven me crazy. I wonder if you can help me secretly, as a best friend of my father, and I will pay you well."
"What do you want me to do?" Mr. YYY replied. "I wonder if you could sell me some poison which I can use to poison my mother-in-law, and solve my problem?" She asked. After a long time, he said: "Sure, I can help you. However, you must understand two things. First, you cannot poison your mother-in-law in a quick way. People will notice that and realize what you have done. I must give you some herbs which will kill her slowly without being noticed. Second, in order to avoid suspicion, from now on you must control your temper, learn to respect her, love her, obey her, and serve her patiently. Do these things and nobody will suspect you once she dies."
Naturally, Mrs. XXX agreed with what the herbalist said and took the herbs home, mixing them into her mother-in-law's food daily. She learned to control her temper, to serve her, and show her respect. When she noticed the change in her daughter-in-law's attitude, her mother-in-law also changed, and started to love her in return. After six months, the relationship between these two women had grown to be so close they were like an actual mother and daughter. One day, Mrs. XXX came to see the herbalist and said: "Please, for heaven's sake, please save my mother-in-law from the poison I have been giving her for the last six months. I do not want to kill her anymore. She has become the most understanding mother-in-law that I could ever find."
The herbalist smiled and answered: "Do not worry. I never gave you any poison. What I gave you was simply some herbs for nourishment. The poison was in your mind and now you have erased it by yourself."
You can see from this story that it is very easy to see and criticize the behavior and attitude of another person, while it can be almost impossible to see your own. Many times you will find that once you have changed, the whole world changes with you, and you will become the happiest person in the entire world.
You will only gain the respect of others when you learn how to respect them in return ...
with my best regards to you all ...
This is an ancient Chinese story. When a girl in ancient China was married, she usually lived with and served her husband and mother-in-law. When Mrs. XXX married her husband, she found that she could not stand the daily criticism of her mother-in-law. She decided to do something. She came to a herbal shop and talked with the owner of the store, who also happened to be a friend of her father.
She said: "Mr. YYY, I cannot stand any more of my mother-in-law's temper. She has driven me crazy. I wonder if you can help me secretly, as a best friend of my father, and I will pay you well."
"What do you want me to do?" Mr. YYY replied. "I wonder if you could sell me some poison which I can use to poison my mother-in-law, and solve my problem?" She asked. After a long time, he said: "Sure, I can help you. However, you must understand two things. First, you cannot poison your mother-in-law in a quick way. People will notice that and realize what you have done. I must give you some herbs which will kill her slowly without being noticed. Second, in order to avoid suspicion, from now on you must control your temper, learn to respect her, love her, obey her, and serve her patiently. Do these things and nobody will suspect you once she dies."
Naturally, Mrs. XXX agreed with what the herbalist said and took the herbs home, mixing them into her mother-in-law's food daily. She learned to control her temper, to serve her, and show her respect. When she noticed the change in her daughter-in-law's attitude, her mother-in-law also changed, and started to love her in return. After six months, the relationship between these two women had grown to be so close they were like an actual mother and daughter. One day, Mrs. XXX came to see the herbalist and said: "Please, for heaven's sake, please save my mother-in-law from the poison I have been giving her for the last six months. I do not want to kill her anymore. She has become the most understanding mother-in-law that I could ever find."
The herbalist smiled and answered: "Do not worry. I never gave you any poison. What I gave you was simply some herbs for nourishment. The poison was in your mind and now you have erased it by yourself."
You can see from this story that it is very easy to see and criticize the behavior and attitude of another person, while it can be almost impossible to see your own. Many times you will find that once you have changed, the whole world changes with you, and you will become the happiest person in the entire world.
You will only gain the respect of others when you learn how to respect them in return ...
with my best regards to you all ...