oO Laila Oo
21-10-2005, 03:25 AM
[align=left]Deal with anger positively.
Ramadan is a good time to exercise self-control, especially while you’re fasting. Remember that you are trying to set an example for your child. You are also trying to teach him that Ramadan isn’t just about ‘not eating’. At times, you or other members of the family will get angry.
Learning how to deal with your anger positively helps avoid unnecessary conflicts where irreparable psychological damage can occur due to physical or verbal abuse. When you are angry, count from one to ten and then speak. Or apply what our messenger(May Allah bless him and grant him with peace) has taught us that to do abolution, remove yourself from the situation completely, cool down and then come back and state how you feel.
Yelling at children is rarely effective. Children usually fail
to understand when you yell, either out of fear, or simply because angry parents are not usually very skilled in using words. Often they are so angry that they can not choose age-appropriate words. They end up not making sense to the child. If you are angry about your child's behavior, which will often happen, refrain from reacting. Tell your child that you are angry and cannot talk right now.
Take time to calm down, think and then act. This way
you are making sure you are fair and reasonable.
By doing this, you are also teaching your child how to
manage anger.[/center]
[align=left]Am I right ?
I hope all of us get benefit .. see you soon .. Laila[/center]
Ramadan is a good time to exercise self-control, especially while you’re fasting. Remember that you are trying to set an example for your child. You are also trying to teach him that Ramadan isn’t just about ‘not eating’. At times, you or other members of the family will get angry.
Learning how to deal with your anger positively helps avoid unnecessary conflicts where irreparable psychological damage can occur due to physical or verbal abuse. When you are angry, count from one to ten and then speak. Or apply what our messenger(May Allah bless him and grant him with peace) has taught us that to do abolution, remove yourself from the situation completely, cool down and then come back and state how you feel.
Yelling at children is rarely effective. Children usually fail
to understand when you yell, either out of fear, or simply because angry parents are not usually very skilled in using words. Often they are so angry that they can not choose age-appropriate words. They end up not making sense to the child. If you are angry about your child's behavior, which will often happen, refrain from reacting. Tell your child that you are angry and cannot talk right now.
Take time to calm down, think and then act. This way
you are making sure you are fair and reasonable.
By doing this, you are also teaching your child how to
manage anger.[/center]
[align=left]Am I right ?
I hope all of us get benefit .. see you soon .. Laila[/center]