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مشاهدة النسخة كاملة : Answered! Life's Toughest Questions



enigma
09-03-2006, 07:43 PM
Are there questions that keep you up at night? Make you wonder? Make you worry? 0


Well here are some answers to some of these questions

By Jeanne Marie Laskas




Love & Marriage


Q. Can love realy last a lifetime? 0

Absolutely,but only if you chuck the fairy tale of living happily ever after.A team of scientists recently found that romantic love involves chemical changes in the brain that last 12 to 18 months.After that,you and your partner are on your own.Relationships require mantenance.Pay a visit to a nursing home if you want to see proof of lasting love.Recently I spoke to a man whose wife of 60 years was suffering from advanced Alzheimer's disease.He came to sit with her every day and hold her hand."She's been my best friend since high school," he told me."We made a pronise to stick together."Now ,that's a love story

Q. Why do married folks begin to look like one another? 0

Watch any two people who like each other talking,and you'll see a lot of mirroring.One smiles,and so does the other.One nods or raises her eybrows,and so does the other.Faces are like melodies with a natural urge to stay in sync.Multiply those movements by several decades of marriage,all those years of simultaneous sagging and drooping,and it's no wonder


Cosmic Questions


Q. Why does summer zoom by and winter drag on forever? 0

Because context defines experience.As Albert Einstein once said: "When you are courting a nice girl,an hour seems like a second.When you sit on a red-hot cinder,a second seems like an hour". 0


Q. Do animals really have a sixth sense? 0

Or seventh or eighth! A box jelly-fish has 24 eyes,an earthworm's entire body is covered with taste receptors, a cockroach can detect movements 2,000 times the diameter of a hydrogen atom--and your dog's sense of smell is up to 100,000 times greater than yours (some dogs have been known to smell human cancer). It's safe to say that animals experience a much different world than we do

Q. Why does the line you're in always move the slowest? 0

Because you're late for your kid's band practice,and you curse your luck and envy those speeding by .Conversely,when you're in the fast line,unfettered by stress,you don't even notice the poor schlubs in the slow lane.Good luck rarely commands one's attention like bad luck

Q. By what age should you know what you want to do with your life? 0

Any moment now.This used to be a question the young asked.Now it's a quandary for baby boomers.The Bureau of Labor Statistics reports that younger boomers have abandoned the American ideal of picking a job and sticking with it.Between the ages of 18 and 36,these boomers held an average of 9.6 jobs.That's a lot of exploration.The wisdom of elders in all cultures seems to be this: There's nothing to do with a life but live it.As Gandhi pointed out,"Almost anything you do will be insignificant,but it's very important that you do it." 0

Q. Where do traffic jams come from? 0

Scientists are hard at work on this one,studying computer models of the physics of gridlock and inventing all new traffic-light algorithms.Some of them postulate that the rhythms of automobile traffic are influenced by the same cyclical forces that cause waves in the ocean. For the average computer,though, it may be helpfful to think of it this way:congestion.There're just too many darn people trying to do the same thing at once.(Flush the toilet in a single office building simultaneously,and see what happens.) All of this by way of saying:buy a newspaper,load up some favorite tunes on your MP3 player and take the bus:D


Wait for the rest of the answered questions

scoop
09-03-2006, 08:37 PM
Hi dear Enigma

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because of your great doings

to support this forum

Accept my sincer prayers

enigma
09-03-2006, 08:47 PM
Scoopy Dear

You just can't imagine how deeply moved I am by your sweetness

Believe me dear I'm doing the least I could to a wonderful place that I really adore

Thanks for your support

enigma
14-03-2006, 05:20 PM
Working for the Man


Q. When is your future behind you? 0


When you stop chasing dreams.So don't stop! 0



Q. Do you have to love your job? 0


No.Love your children,your spouse and your country.Love your parents,your neighbors and your friends.Loving is too important an emotion to attach to the way you make a living.But it's OK to strive for satisfaction.According to a recent Harris Poll.across America 59% of workers say they are extremely,somewhat or slightly satisfied with their jobs,but a depressing 33% feel as if they've reached a career dead end. If you're among the latter and thinking about a new job,consider the fact that employees in small firms said they felt more engaged in their work than did their corporate counterparts


Families & Feuds


Q. When do you take away Grandpa's car keys? 0


It's true that safe driving has more to do with functional ability than age.It's also true that seniors are more at risk for reduced vision,hearing loss and impairments associated with arthritis,but all of these conditions depend on the individual.So when it seems to you that pa is becoming a danger to himself and to others,tell him straight.Point out that his reactions have slowed or his judgment is losing its edge.Suggest he not drive anymore.Be firm,but at the same time,don't treat him like a child.Allow him his dignity.Offer him a ride or bring him a driver

Q. Do siblings who fight really end up liking each other? 0


I surveyed my older sisters,both of whom have vivid memories of how I tripped ,pummeled and whacked them with various large plastic dolls( hey,they started it --they teased me!),and both confirmed my suspicion that nowadays they like me just fine. I sure like them.All the experts will tell you that fighting among siblings is normal.The key is how parents handle it.Rule No 1: Don't take sides.Never get into a discussion of who started what or what is more fair.Stop fights with a time--out for all offenders.My mother would send us to separate rooms.So we invented string phones and a pully system to transport necessary treats and toys.And whatever we were fighting about was forgotten

Q. How do you know when to end a friendship? 0

As soon as you get that sneaking suspicion that it never really began


All About You


Q. Why do we turn to our parents when we swore we wouldn't? 0

Because really,when all is said or done, we admire and love them


Q. Can a half-empty person become a half-full person? 0


A current theory is that people have an "emotional set point." Some folks are just made happier than others.Pessimists will see this as bad news,believing it really doesn't matter what you do they are never going to be any happier.But there's hope,as any optimist will see! Happiness has more to do with how you construe the events in your life than the actual events themselves


Kids,No Kidding


Q. When do kids become adults? 0


Biologically,it's happening earlier;emotionally,it seems to be happening later.Nowadays puberty occurs in females between ages 8 and 14, between 9 and 15 in males. It's cute for a while,less adorable the older the kid gets


Q. Can a mother be friends with her teenage daughter? 0


No.Most teens aren't ready for anything close to a mature friendship.According to develop into a person's 20s.Mothers often want to befriend their daughters;fathers,their sons.But this is not in anyone's best interest.Teenagers need to form identities distinct from their parents.That means:lots of privacy,even some secrets.It's usually easier for a teenage girl to befriend the friend of her mother and it's usually best for the mother to leave it at that


Money & Other Headaches


Q. Does money really buy happiness? 0


No. Because happiness isn't for sale.Many people get tripped up by this one,amassing wealth only to find themselves cycling into a bottomless pit of unsatisfiable yearning.Turns out,joy and misery are not that far apart when it comes to very big wads of cash.When it comes to happiness,only people you love and love you,can bring it.If you have enough dough to buy yourself a luxurious yacht,but no real friends to sail with,you're sunk

Q. Can spenders and savers stay married? 0


Sure and they won't run out of things to talk about either.Disagreements over money are a leading cause of divorce,so experts advise lots of work around this issue if,financially speaking you've found yourself married to your opposite.Tip: Always talk in terms of "ours" instead of "mine" or "yours" and work your strengths.The saver should be allowed to draft the budget,the spender gets to be in charge of vacations and celebrations

Q. Is money the root of all evil? 0


No.Greed is."Sharing money is what gives it its value." 0


Manners & Morals


Q. What do you do if you see a parent berating a child? 0


Cringe. Take a deep breath.If you truly believe you can help the situation,approach as someone showing sympathy not as an accuser.Empathize with the overstressed parent.Suggest that he take a deep breath.Tell him it worked for you

Q. Why is it hard to say you're wrong? 0


Because it often involves saying,"I'm sorry," which is even harder.Throughout history people have foundit easier to stop speaking to one another,punch.slander.shoot and bomb rather than apologize. Tip: Next time just say,"Whoops," and see what happens

Q. When should you reveal a secret you said you wouldn't? 0


It's a matter of damage control.Is the person who asked you to keep the secret in danger of hurting himself or others? If so,intervene.Othrwise,mum's the word

اسيــ حبه ــرة
17-03-2006, 10:44 PM
Wo0o0o0o0oW

So intersting my dear

I can do anyhting toward this wounderful thread

except thanking you deeply

so nice to see your great posts shining again

C U soooooooooooooon

Accept my wishes

enigma
18-03-2006, 03:00 AM
Welcome back Asira

I'm glad that you liked the post

Hope to read from you soon

English Lover
19-03-2006, 03:32 AM
. When is your future behind you? 0



When you stop chasing dreams.So don't stop! 0




wonderful


thanx enigma

enigma
20-03-2006, 11:58 PM
English Lover

May all your dreams fulfilled dear brother

And many thanks for your comment