Ladies First

**toti999** · 30-05-2009, 10:44 PM

Hello everyone

I haven't participated in anything for a while cause I was sick

Here's a story that I hope you can enjoy it

"LADIES FIRST"

It is common to hear the

expression 'ladies first'. Women, in particular, daily repeat it as if it is a rule.

They actually feel proud of it,

unknowing its origin and its real indications. They think it is praise to them, while it is a shame to be said according to its origin

The story of this saying took place in Italy.

It is about two lovers who loved each other so much. They decided to marry.

But some social circumstances and relatives block the way of their marriage. They did not accept this and intentionally decided either to live together as husband and wife, or to die. together Having done best to achieve the marriage, they got disappointed. Dying was the only option. They thought about a number of ways to commit the suicide,throwing themselves into the sea was the appropriate way to them. The man sincerely said he would not bear the situation of seeing her drowning to death in front of his eyes. He convinced his beloved that he would throw himself first and then she would do so latter.

In the rush moment, the man did it and drown. The lady was looking at him as if he was 'singing'. The man was dead. It was the lady's turn to follow him to live together underneath, as they decided. But she soon broke her promise, forgetting her sweetheart who was dying in front of her eyes and in heart as well.
She 'threw herself back to the village'. Yes! Her promise was to throw herself. And she did, but to the village instead of the sea.
She came back home, to her relatives as if nothing has happened. Few days later, she fell in love with another man. She was happy with him as if it was her first love. It did not take a lot of time till she got married to him
Since then, people start doubting ladies and start repeating the saying 'ladies first', with the implication that ladies should throw themselves into the sea first, should die first, because they are not trustworthy
It is really interesting when one hears a lady proudly says 'ladies first', thinking that she adds a privilege for being a female. Some people, men and women, take it as a social rule, unknowing its real indications.
This is not a personal point of view. It is not, moreover, a personal interpretation of the story. It is what many sources say and interpret the original story. So, women please forgive me for shedding light on this.
I do only a favor for women so that to be aware of when to say 'ladies first' and when not to say. For me, I don’t care if I hear a woman saying this. I way ignore or pretend deafness. But others may take it a matter of satire.

**rose rani** · 30-05-2009, 11:12 PM

wow so interesting story

this is the frist time i know that

she was very bad women but you know no one deserves to kill yourself
in order to live or whatever
anyway
this my oponion

thank you so much for this nice story

may Allah bless you

**BloumagrieT** · 31-05-2009, 01:06 AM

toti999

Welcome back dearest sister

and I really hope you're fine and healthy now

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Concerning your story, I never heard it before

I have always thought of it as being polite

towards females

I think nowadays it's ment to be that way

**toti999** · 31-05-2009, 04:00 PM

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wow so interesting story

this is the frist time i know that

she was very bad women but you know no one deserves to kill yourself
in order to live or whatever
anyway
this my oponion

thank you so much for this nice story

may Allah bless you

Hi dear >>
Im very happy to give u such a new information

Thank u

**toti999** · 31-05-2009, 04:02 PM

hello soso

and thank u very much 2 comment in my forum

**Foshia** · 07-06-2009, 07:20 AM

woOoOw.. it's the 1st time 4 me 2 hear this info. about this saying ...I thought it was asourse of compliment to

all women but now....

thank u v.much brother 4 letting us know that.