teaching kids the Islamic manners

**M.o_o.N** · 18-08-2009, 06:39 PM

When I was surfing the net I found this

its about teaching kids the Islamic manners in English

so I would love to share it with you all

* Being respectful and dutiful to parents:
The first person from whom a child learns good manners is the father/mother. If
a child is raised in a good Islamic home, then it would be natural for him to
treat his parents respectfully.

Allaah Says (what means): "And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but
Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them
reach old age in your life, never say 'uff’ (an expression of displeasure), nor
shout at them but address them in terms of honour. And humble yourself to them
out of mercy and say, 'My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me
up when I was small.'"
[Quran, 17:23,24]

* Maintaining good relations with relatives:
Sound cultivation also stipulates teaching children to maintain good relations
with their relatives.
Allaah Says (what means): ''Worship Allaah and associate none with Him in
worship, and do good to parents, kinsfolk, orphans, the needy, the neighbor who
is near of kin, the neighbor who is a stranger, the companion by your side, the
wayfarer (you meet), and those (slaves) whom your right hands possess. Verily,
Allaah does not like such as are proud and boastful. "
[Quran, 4:36]

The fulfillment of this Divine command can be accomplished only by sound
cultivation which makes them grow attached to their relatives out of obedience
to Allaah.
Since relatives are an extension of the family, then strengthening ties with
them strengthens the whole family and it is like strengthening the whole
community and this reflects an Islamic community that enjoys a cohesive
structure.

The Prophet (pbuh) said: "The example of the believers in their reciprocal love
and mercy is like a human body, when one of its organs suffers, the rest of the
body remains awake and suffers fever."
[Muslim]

* Inculcating brotherly love:
Brotherly love and believers' solidarity must be embedded in children's minds
and that the believers are brothers-in-faith. For example to follow the pious
predecessors, the Muhajireen and the Ansaar (may Allah be blessed with
them) whose brotherly love and altruism Allaah commands in His Book.

Giving a friendly gesture or a happy greeting to Muslim brothers generates
friendliness in their hearts and, strengthens the love among the believers.
This indeed is a fine trait, which is instructed by Allaah, the Exalted.

He describes the believers by saying (what means): "Muhammad is the Messenger
of Allaah, and those who are with him are severe against disbelievers, and
merciful among themselves…"
[Quran, 48:29]

Allaah also addressed His Messenger (pbuh) saying (what means): "Had you been
severe and harsh-hearted, they would have broken away from about you…"
[Quran, 3:159]

* Guarding the tongue:
Giving a good word is a type of remembrance of Allaah, telling the truth,
guarding one's own tongue against slandering other Muslims are good deeds. The
best Muslim, according to the Prophet (pbuh) is the one from whose tongue the
Muslims feel safe.

Parents should make their children aware of the gravity of abusing others with
their tongue and of the fact that the tongue is a double-sided and dangerous
weapon. Therefore, they should be warned in particular against abusing it.

* Warning children against backbiting and slandering:
Children should be taught that backbiting is speaking slanderously about an
absent person.
The Prophet (pbuh) said: "Do you know what back biting is?” They (companions)
said: "Allaah and His Messenger know best." He (pbuh) said: "It is to attribute
to your brother what he dislikes." He (pbuh) was asked: "What do you think if
what I say about my brother is true?" He (pbuh) said: "If what you attribute to
him is true, then you have backbitten him, and if it is not true, then you have
lied about him."
[Muslim]

* Warning children against lying:
Children must be taught to tell the truth and to keep away from lying, which is
the most horrible habit. The Prophet (pbuh) said: "There are four traits
whoever possesses them is a sheer hypocrite, and he who possesses one of them,
possesses a trait of hypocrisy unless he quits it. They are: when he speaks, he
lies; and when he enters into an agreement, he acts unfaithfully; when he
promises, he breaches his promise; and when he litigates, he behaves
treacherously. While the liar receives the anger of Allaah on the Day of
Resurrection."
[Al-Bukhaari]

Parents should not take this evil habit lightly, or consider it funny when
their children tell lies because later on, it becomes easy for them to lie
without any compunction.

* Abusing others:
Among the worst of manners is reviling people and swearing at them. If this bad
habit is not redressed while the child is growing up, it becomes hard for him
to avoid it later on.
Islam enjoins guarding the tongues. The Prophet (pbuh) said: "He who
guarantees, what is in between his jaws (tongue), and what is in between his
thighs (private parts), I guarantee Paradise for him."
[Al-Bukhaari]

This means guarding one's own tongue against uttering anything that displeases
Allaah, and guarding one's own private parts against committing illicit acts or
fornication.